Episodes

Join Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley with their guest, Pastor Dan Seaborn as he describes how he and his wife transformed their marriage over the last three years. There's clinical wisdom for serious issues, but shared in casual and productive ways on this episode. We also share some questions to open up your spouse's inner world, as well as answer a listener's question on how often married couples should have sex. The Necessary Nine Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email Call our Counseling L...

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of making marriages strong enough to withstand life's challenges. We're bringing back one of our best friends, Dr. Gary Thomas, who talks about his book 'Making Your Marriage a Fortress.' The conversation covers how sin, temptations, and life trials can erode a relationship. We also discuss the significance of spiritual growth, community, and emotional safety in marriages. We'll also answer a listener's question about handling life after divorce a...

There's something exciting happening and you could call it an Adventure In Odyssey! This is a special release to talk about the brand new animated feature film that will release in the Fall of 2026. Listen to Adventures in Odyssey Donate To The Making Of Journey Into the Impossible! Contact the show! Sign up for our FREE Marriage Newsletter Send us your email or voice mail here! Send Us A Review! Support the show! If you enjoyed listening to the Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage podcast...

We're doing a Question/Answer Show again because you are part of our community—addressing real questions, exploring fresh perspectives, and continuing the dialogue together! Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley share on a variety of marital challenges. From persuading a husband to give family trips another chance to discussing sensitive issues like pornography in marriage, emphasizing boundaries and seeking professional help. Keep sending your questions to us. It's our honor to help you in every way possib...

In this engaging conversation, Luke and Courtney Smallbone share the story of their 16-year marriage, reflecting on their love story that began with a chance meeting at a shoe store. (Luke and his brother Joel make up the band For King And Country.) Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley delve into the unexpected challenges and growth that marriage brings, sharing insights on leadership, conflict resolution, and maintaining a fun and fulfilling relationship. And as always, we answer a listener question. Tak...

We continue the conversation with Kait and JJ Tomlin, but we dive deeper into understanding ways to be more intimate with our spouse. Calling out our feelings, checking ourselves, and seeking God's truth as you walk through tough times. They delve into the surprises and challenges they faced and the importance of pre-engagement and premarital counseling. JJ shares his journey of overcoming resentment and selfishness, highlighting the impact of ownership and repentance on their marriage. The Toml...

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley talk with the founder of Heart of Dating, Kait Tomlin, with her husband JJ about our mindsets when we're dating before marriage, versus the reality of what we each bring into our married life. They emphasize the importance of being open to changes and the significance of individual growth and self-examination to maintain a healthy marriage. Our hurts, our issues, our expectations, all of it! We'll also give you a Valentine's Day activity, and we answer a question from a...

Get ready for a GREAT conversation with Micah E. Davis, author of the book Three Strikes, You're Forgiven! He delves into the profound concept of forgiveness, emphasizing it as a deliberate decision rather than merely a feeling. Greg and Erin share strategies for beginning the forgiveness process, as well as God's grace in the journey as they share the story of someone close to their family that they had to forgive, too. Three Strikes, You're Forgiven Forgiveness In The Family Article Hope Re...

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley address listener-submitted questions about various marital issues. They emphasize the importance of connection over pressure, advise on navigating financial transparency in relationships, and discuss handling mismatched sexual desires. They also provide guidance on dealing with snoring issues, setting boundaries, and striving for better marital satisfaction. We're advocating for open communication, self-awareness, and seeking professional help when needed to strengthen ...

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of placing more faith in God rather than your spouse with Dr. Gary Thomas. They address various marital challenges, including the impact of adversities, providing both spiritual guidance and practical advice, and they offer recommendations for self-care and self-compassion. Dr. Thomas emphasizes the significance of drawing strength from God and uses personal anecdotes to illustrate how adversity can strengthen marriages. Greg and Erin also...

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of couples working together on their goals, which research shows leads to higher levels of happiness and progress. We discuss the Marriage Champions program that you can get involved in to coach and support other couples. Our guests are the leaders of Marriage Team, Matthew Zoller and Alan & Autumn Ray. They share key coaching techniques involving communication skills, handling anger, resolving conflict, and planning for relapses. We also ...

This is a Crazy Little Thing that you have GOT to listen to with your spouse! Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of identifying emotional triggers and managing conflict in marriages with Ron and Nan Deal, who share their personal journey of overcoming repetitive arguments and emotional pain. The Deals recount their transformative experience with a counselor who helped them address their pride and underlying pain points, ultimately leading to a more peaceful and understandin...

Whether you're newlywed or if you've been married for years, you may have unspoken and sometimes unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment, conflict, and resentment. On this episode, Greg and Erin help couples develop better conflict resolution techniques such as pausing during escalated arguments, leaning in during moments of conflict, and utilizing empathy in apologies with Christian counselors Chris and Jamie Bailey. They underscore the importance of mutual support, adjustment ...

MERRY CHRISTMAS from everyone at Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage! This episode features a special presentation by Liz Curtis Higgs, who shares faith-filled stories of Zechariah, Elizabeth, Mary, and the miraculous births in the Bible, emphasizing that nothing is impossible for God! Greg and Erin encourage you to look for the love languages of your friends and family at Christmas, and we answer an email from a listener who wonders if she and her husband are managing conflict correctly because ...

We're continuing our conversation with Dr. Juli Slattery on how God designed sex and sexuality. We're going to discuss the detrimental effects of pornography on both individuals and marriages, as well as highlight the importance of addressing sexual issues through a Christ-centered identity and real, accountable recovery programs. Have you ever thought about how Christians need to differentiate discussions about sexual ethics based on people's beliefs about God and creation? If you're wanting he...

How do you have sex? What does it really symbolize in your marriage? Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley delve into a deeper conversation that contrasts 'how' with 'why' with Dr. Juli Slattery. Understanding the purpose and significance of sex from a Christian perspective is crucial. We talk about the covenantal significance of sex in marriage, reflecting God's covenant with his people, and how couples can better communicate about their sexual relationship. The conversation underscores the spiritual and r...

Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley delve into the critical issue of supporting friends in abusive or oppressive marriages with Darby Strickland, an expert counselor and author. Darby explains an insightful definition of abuse as 'oppression,' framing it as the antithesis of God's design for marriage. The discussion addresses the common mistakes helpers make, identifies the patterns of abuse, and offers practical advice for those who may be abusing subconsciously. Is It Abuse? Article: Wh...

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley continue with the great conversation they had with Dr. Randy Schroeder about simple habits couples can adopt to strengthen their marriage. Starting with the critical role of forgiveness in healing and sustaining relationships, with specific language that you can use. We also touch on managing conflict, expressing kindness, and the value of having specific disagreement guidelines. If your marriage needs help, pick up Dr. Shroeder's book, and call our counseling line. We'...

Want some practical habits for happiness in your marriage? Enter, Dr. Randy Schroeder, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over three decades of counseling experience. Dr. Schrader's key topics include the importance of meeting each other's expectations, the power of small daily habits like meaningful hugs and eye-contact with conversations. As always, we emphasize the need for continuous learning and growth in marriage, offering concrete advice for couples feeling disconnected or cons...

Greg and Erin Smalley discuss the importance of maintaining relational skills in marriage with Roger and Kathy Lipp, who discuss their blended family and their adventures in team-building. We delve into the importance of carving out couple time, how chronic illness can reshape a marriage, and the importance of gratitude and flexibility. Happy Habits for Every Couple How to Fight Busyness in Marriage Sign Up For Our Weekly E-Newsletter And Be a Marriage Champion 20 Dates For Less Than $20 Su...

Do you think repairing your marriage is hopeless? On this episode of Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage, Greg and Erin feature a presentation by Bob and Jenni Paul, who explain that underneath all marital conflicts is a common cycle of reactive behavior triggered by deeper, often unrecognized wounds or buttons. Our goal is to bring awareness to these patterns so that couples are able to respond with understanding, and improve their relationships by addressing their core desires and fears. Sound ...

No matter how long you've been married, there's some great advice in this episode! Greg and Erin discuss the challenges and opportunities in the middle years of marriage, focusing on issues like health struggles, retirement, and caring for aging parents with Larry McCall. They emphasize the importance of preventing boredom, pursuing wonder in marriage and life, and the value of counsel. Larry shares his journey of understanding the deeper purpose of marriage, the importance of love based on God'...

On this episode, Greg and Erin discuss the importance of communication, romance, and navigating challenges within marriage with Jess and Ryan Ronne; who also share their journey of dealing with grief after losing their first spouses. The Ronnes offer insights into how they balance their relationship while caring for eight children (including one with special needs), and the strategies they use to maintain intimacy and satisfaction. Lovin' With Grit & Grace: Straight Talk about Romance, Sex, Fun...

Greg and Erin welcome renown British evangelist and author, J.John and his wife Killy as they reflect on their 42-year marriage, discussing early challenges, the importance of communication, and the essential values they've embraced: respect, responsibility, romance, and resilience. They emphasize the significance of intentionally nurturing their relationship despite the demands of work and life, and share their daily routines that help them maintain a balanced and harmonious life together. The ...