Episodes

Sept. 18, 2025

Don’t Play the Blame Game

When you're upset, one of the worst things you can do is fixate too much on blaming your spouse. Dr. Greg Smalley shares a story about a time he snapped at Erin, and how he learned from it. Plus, Jim Daly joins Dr. Bob Paul a...
Sept. 16, 2025

When a Button is Pushed, and Self Care

How do you respond well when one of your buttons gets pushed in marriage? Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde talk with Jim Daly about examining the reasons why your buttons get pushed. Also, John Fuller asks Erin Smalley about how...
Sept. 11, 2025

When a Friend Calls You Out

Having supportive friends is one of the best ways to keep your marriage strong. Jim Turner tells Jim Daly a story about a time a friend called him out on something. Plus, Erin Smalley shares what women need from friends who l...
Sept. 9, 2025

Emotional Distance in Marriage

Allowing your spouse to share their feelings is one of the best ways to make your marriage safe. Jim Turner and Jim Daly talk about how men tend to compartmentalize their emotions. Also, John and the Smalley's will give some ...
Sept. 4, 2025

A Few Minutes of Intentionality

What if a small change in your marriage made the biggest difference? Jay and Laura Laffoon talk about how 15 minutes of uninterrupted conversation has helped couples they've worked with. Then, the Smalley's talk about simple ...
Sept. 2, 2025

Simple Celebrations with Big Implications

When was the last time you and your spouse laughed together? Erin Smalley explains why laughter is a sign of a healthy relationship. Then, Jim Daly joins Jay and Laura Laffoon, who bring up why every couples needs to find sim...
Aug. 28, 2025

Good Sex is the Result of Commitment

The best sex is many times the end result of staying committed to your spouse. Jim Daly talks to Sherri Mueller about why sex can get better with time in your marriage. Then, Erin Smalley shares about how your marriage can st...
Aug. 26, 2025

When Sex Isn’t Happening as Often as You Want

There are times where physical intimacy is a regular part of your marriage. But how do you navigate the seasons where it's not? Jim Daly speaks to Erin Smalley and Sherri Mueller on when wives have a husband who's not able to...
Aug. 21, 2025

When the Reactive Cycle Goes Negative

How are you and your spouse responding to conflict? Jim Daly speaks with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde about something called, The Reactive Cycle, and when it goes wrong in your marriage. Then, Dr. Greg Smalley will give you ...
Aug. 19, 2025

Reactions that Make Your Spouse Feel Safe

Every marriage needs to feel safe before both spouses can be open with each other. Erin shares about some ways her husband Greg makes her feel safe. Plus, Jim Daly talks with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde about how real safet...
Aug. 14, 2025

Roadblocks to Effective Communication

Do you think you have your spouse all figured out? The truth is, there's always something new to learn. Ryan Frederick and Jim Daly encourage husbands to work through communication barriers to better understand their wives. P...
Aug. 12, 2025

The Difference 3 Seconds Can Make

If you're ever mad with your spouse, it's good to pause before saying something you regret later. Greg and Erin Smalley talk about the value of pausing before you explode in a marriage argument. Also, Ryan Frederick joins Jim...
Aug. 7, 2025

Lean into Your Spouse’s Strengths

How have your spouse's strengths been useful to you? John Fuller opens up a way his wife has helped him be a better man. Also, Dr. Kevin Leman talks with Focus President Jim Daly about how his wife has been good at catching d...
Aug. 5, 2025

The Value of Your Spouse’s Birth-Order

You and your spouse likely have different strengths. God designed it that way. But are you telling your spouse you appreciate their gifts? Dr. Kevin Leman and Jim Daly share about how a firstborn wife, who loves rules, can st...
July 31, 2025

When Sex Isn’t Frequent

How do you handle seasons where you're not enjoying physical intimacy as much as you want in marriage? Jim Daly speaks to Erin Smalley and Sherri Mueller about when sex isn't happening much for married couples. Plus, Greg Sma...
July 29, 2025

Leaving a Marriage Legacy

What will your kids say about your marriage in the future? Greg and Erin Smalley share how they stay inspired to remember they're building a legacy now. Also, Sean and Lanette Reed address how God wants us to bless not only y...
July 24, 2025

What You Control, What You Don’t

It's easy to fixate on what your spouse is doing wrong. But real courage many times is focusing on what you need to work on. Erin Smalley addresses how a lot of couples in her counseling are too focused on their spouse's issu...
July 22, 2025

Can God Work a Miracle in Your Relationship?

Have you ever reached a point in marriage where you didn't think you'd make it? John asks Greg Smalley about how he and Erin persevered through a challenging time in their relationship. Plus, Jim Daly talks to Dr. Bob Paul an...
July 17, 2025

When Two Strong Personalities Clash

When you and your spouse are in an argument, it can be pretty intense. Ryan Frederick talks with Jim Daly about how he's learned to be more gentle when in conflict with his wife. Then, Erin Smalley explains why it's good for ...
July 15, 2025

Your Temperament as a Husband

It's not just about what you say to your spouse, but it's also about how you say it. Ryan Frederick and Jim Daly address why it's important to watch your tone as a husband. Plus, John and Greg offer encouragement to husbands ...
July 10, 2025

Birth-Order and Biblical Examples

Every person, based on your birth-order, has strengths and weaknesses. Dr. Kevin Leman and Jim Daly address some of the biblical examples of how birth-order influences someone's personality. Plus, Erin and John discuss perfec...
July 8, 2025

When You and Your Spouse Are the Same Birth-Order

Many couples tend to marry someone outside of their birth-order. But what about the scenario where people of the same birth-order get married? Dr. Kevin Leman talks with Jim Daly about when middle children and babies of the f...
July 3, 2025

Sticking it Out in Your Marriage

In the moments you feel frustrated, how do you look past the annoyances in your marriage? Sean and Lanette Reed speak to Jim Daly about how they've learned to ask for help as a couple. Then, John and the Smalley's bring up ho...
July 1, 2025

When You Need Grit in Your Marriage

Every marriage needs a bit of toughness to help weather the difficult times. Jim Daly talks to Sean and Lanette Reed about why your marriage needs grit. Plus, John asks Greg how he and Erin have benefitted from developing res...