Episodes

Dec. 24, 2020

Making Time for Each Other

Time is a precious gift, but in a non-stop world, finding a few minutes together is hard to do. When your schedule is full, having a deep conversation with your spouse can feel like just another checklist item. John, Greg and...
Dec. 22, 2020

Learning to Resolve Conflict

In the heat of an argument, it's easy to say something to your spouse that you later regret. When you're angry after a conflict, it's critical to deal with it rather than stuff it away. John, Greg and Erin will give some help...
Dec. 17, 2020

Spiritual Maturity in Your Marriage

Growing together spiritually in your marriage doesn't happen by accident. Sometimes, asking your spouse questions is one of the best ways to start. John, Greg and Erin explain the connection between asking questions and spiri...
Dec. 15, 2020

Facing Hard Seasons Together

Every couple faces hardship. Whether it's a financial struggle, a strong disagreement, or problems with a child, conflict can strengthen your marriage, or drive you further apart. The Smalleys talk with John about how they've...
Dec. 10, 2020

Overcoming the Bad With Good

It's not an uncommon marriage problem: one spouse is working hard, but the other is indifferent. When this scenario happens, it can be easy for the marriage to start coasting rather than growing. John, Greg and Erin give some...
Dec. 8, 2020

Shake Out the Selfishness

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the work in your marriage, but your spouse isn't giving anything back? The truth is, we've all been selfish at some point. Erin, Greg and John describe how they've worked through selfi...
Dec. 3, 2020

Keys for Compromising Well

Having a great marriage sometimes requires not getting your way. Without healthy compromise, selfishness can rob your relationship of strength and joy. John and the Smalley's explain the difference between good compromise and...
Dec. 1, 2020

Showing that You Care

We all desire to be heard by our spouse. But in our technology saturated world, it can be easy to get distracted and tune your spouse out. John, Erin and Greg explain how they've learned to get better at listening and provide...
Nov. 26, 2020

Don't Do This in an Argument

How you handle conflict in your marriage can help or hurt your relationship. Sometimes, before you get into an argument, it's good to have rules for how you'll handle it. John, Erin and Greg talk about the rules they have for...
Nov. 24, 2020

When Your Marriage Isn't Pretty

Marriage is far from perfect. We've all faced a misunderstood comment or a tough season with our spouse. What do you do when your spouse says or does something that hurts you? John, Greg and Erin give some helpful tips for de...
Nov. 19, 2020

Finding Real Happiness in Your Marriage

Your spouse may be trying to do a good a job, but he or she can only do so much. What do you do when your spouse isn't meeting your expectations? John, Greg and Erin talk about letting go of unrealistic expectations and what ...
Nov. 17, 2020

Handling Conflict with Kindness

What if I told you that a small act of kindness could diffuse an argument with your spouse? While it's not a guarantee, choosing kindness in the midst of a heated conversation can go a long way for your marriage, John asks th...
Nov. 12, 2020

Rules for Confrontation

Every married couple has to have difficult conversations from time to time. In those moments, it's important to choose your words carefully and not use them carelessly. John, Greg and Erin discuss the damage that can be done ...
Nov. 10, 2020

When Your Spouse Overracts

When you or your spouse overreact to a problem, it can lead to hurt feelings and stress in your relationship. As emotions run high, diffusing the tension is critical for the health of your marriage. John, Greg and Erin will p...
Nov. 5, 2020

Rekindling the Romance

When you don't feel those warm, romantic feelings, it can be a great time to remind yourself of how you fell in love with your spouse. John, Greg and Erin give some helpful ideas for bringing romance back into your relationsh...
Nov. 3, 2020

The Importance of Laughing Together

One of the best ways to have fun with your spouse is to laugh together. John talks with Greg and Erin about how laugher has benefitted their marriage. Featuring Pastor Ted Cunningham. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/m...
Oct. 29, 2020

Fighting for Your Marriage

A fight with your spouse can be very uncomfortable. But after working through a conflict, your marriage can be stronger. John, Erin and Greg describe why having God at the center of your relationship can help you work through...
Oct. 27, 2020

Marriage and Your Family of Origin

It's been said before, "you don't just marry your spouse, you marry his or her family." The truth is, the family you come from will influence your marriage. John and the Smalleys give some practical ways for couples to talk o...
Oct. 22, 2020

Getting Past Negative Emotions

When you aren't in a good mood, it's easy to be rude to your spouse. As negative emotions come, how do you respond? Greg and Erin talk with John about how to tell your spouse the way you feel, without being rude. Featuring Dr...
Oct. 20, 2020

Honey, How Are You?

Communicating your feelings to your spouse is critical for maintaining a healthy marriage. It's especially important when raising little children together. Greg, Erin and John discuss ways they've learned to communicate while...
Oct. 15, 2020

Giving and Receiving Comfort

A comforting spouse can be a great gift as you're going through a hard season. When you receive comfort from him or her, it's also important to give it back. John, Greg and Erin discuss some ways they've learned to console th...
Oct. 13, 2020

When Your Spouse Gets Stressed

Everyone has a reaction to stress. In stressful moments, how do you and your spouse respond? John, Greg and Erin talk about things that have brought them comfort whenever life feels overwhelming. Featuring Milan and Kay Yerk...
Oct. 8, 2020

Overcoming Roadblocks to Intimacy

We all long for emotional intimacy, but the journey toward it is usually met with challenges. How can we overcome them? John, Erin and Greg discuss some common roadblocks couples encounter when searching for intimacy. Featuri...
Oct. 6, 2020

Having the Hard Conversations

When a hard conversation is needed, it's critical to show your spouse a lot of grace. Greg, Erin and John talk about ways they've learned to make the tough conversations productive, and will provide some helpful guidelines yo...