Episodes

Nov. 16, 2021

Overcoming Fear in the Spring Season

When you're falling in love, it can feel like the start of the spring season. Flowers are blooming, the sun is shining and romance is strong. But if we're honest, sometimes falling in love can also reveal our deepest fears. …
Nov. 11, 2021

Remembering What Brought You Together

Sometimes, it's good to reflect on why you married your spouse. To help you do that, John and Erin discuss the benefits of remembering how you fell in love. Featuring Mrs. Melanie Shankle. Find us online at focusonthefamily.…
Nov. 9, 2021

Having Fun With Your Opposite Personalities

You married someone who's very different from you! It's part of God's design. While your differences can be a lot of fun, they can also create a lot of tension. John talks to Erin about ways that a couple can have fun with t…
Nov. 4, 2021

Opening a Closed Heart

It's one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage: when your spouse's heart closes. If that happens, it can take a long time for the relationship to be restored. John Fuller and Erin Smalley discuss ways to speak ki…
Nov. 2, 2021

Eliminating Distractions, Finding Intimacy

Let's be honest, sometimes, it's easy to get distracted when your spouse is trying to tell you something. John talks with Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley about why it's important for couples to eliminate distractions and connect o…
Oct. 28, 2021

Purpose of the Seasons

Each season of marriage has a purpose. The key is in choosing to make the most of the one you're in, even when it's not easy. If you feel stuck in a winter season today, Greg, Erin and John will offer you some hope. Featurin…
Oct. 26, 2021

The Seasons Your Marriage Goes Through

Every marriage goes through seasons. Some are wonderful, while others are difficult, but each one can help you improve your relationship. John talks with Greg and Erin about seasons in a marriage and how to know if you've be…
Oct. 21, 2021

Representing Jesus in Our Marriage

If there's a lack of love in your marriage, it's good to evaluate the strength of your relationship with God. The more you prioritize obeying God, the better job you'll do at being a good spouse. John talks to Erin and Greg …
Oct. 19, 2021

Honey, That's Not What I Meant

You said something to your spouse, and thought your point was clear. But after a day or two, your mate is really upset. It turns out, your spouse misunderstood what you said. Sound familiar? John, Erin and Greg explain why w…
Oct. 14, 2021

When Unfaithfulness Meets God's Grace

When your spouse has hurt you, it's easy to hold on to unforgiveness. But doing so will only make things worse. John talks with Greg and Erin about ways couples can take steps toward healing, even if one of the spouses has b…
Oct. 12, 2021

The Immediate Damage of an Affair

Sadly, many couples experience the sting of betrayal. When the unfaithfulness comes to light, the damage is shocking. John talks with Greg and Erin about why an affair is so devastating to a marriage, and they'll point you t…
Oct. 7, 2021

Questions and Answers

You long for meaningful connection with your spouse. However, there are moments when it feels like life and responsibilities keep getting in the way. During those seasons, what do you do? John, Greg and Erin suggest some que…
Oct. 5, 2021

Planets and the Sun

Raising kids with your spouse is one of life's greatest blessings. But anyone who's had children will tell you it's not easy to balance them with your marriage. John talks with Greg and Erin about how to prioritize your marr…
Sept. 30, 2021

Planning for a Thriving Marriage

Success doesn't happen by accident. It requires planning and making intentional decisions. The same principle is true for your marriage. Greg and Erin talk with John about how practicing simple exercises has made their marri…
Sept. 28, 2021

The Story You Tell Yourself

When you're frustrated with your spouse, it's easy to tell yourself things about him or her that aren't true. We've all been guilty of that before. Greg, Erin and John explain how simple gestures of kindness can calm your em…
Sept. 23, 2021

Working Through Triggers With Honesty

You love your spouse so much, but we're all still human. Part of being human is getting on each other's nerves. John, Erin and Greg discuss what it looks like for couples to work through irritations during the early years of…
Sept. 21, 2021

Overcoming Tension in the Early Years

The early years of marriage are filled with bliss and lots of adjustments. With so many changes, getting on each others' nerves is very common as you're learning to live together. John, Greg and Erin give some encouragement …
Sept. 16, 2021

When Jesus Saved Her Marriage

When it seems hopeless, Jesus will still meet you where you are. Your marriage might be struggling today, but God can do a miracle in your relationship. John and the Smalleys share how they've seen God restore broken marriag…
Sept. 14, 2021

God Can Redeem Any Marriage

Many marriages go through a dark season. If you're feeling discouraged today and wondering whether you and your spouse are going to make it, you've come to the right place for hope. Hear John, Erin and Greg explain how it's …
Sept. 9, 2021

Healthy Expectations for Busy Seasons

When we get angry at our family, there's typically a deeper reason why. It might even be rooted in unrealistic expectations. Erin, Greg and John discuss how to have healthy expectations for busy seasons, and ways to show you…
Sept. 7, 2021

Listen to the Metronome

Like music needs a metronome to sound good, your marriage needs a rhythm to help you stay connected. But is that possible when your schedule feels overloaded? John, Erin and Greg discuss ways to make time for your spouse, ev…
Sept. 2, 2021

Brain Magnets and Joy Buckets

Do you remember what it was like when you and your spouse first fell in love? The attraction was so strong. As time goes on, that same attraction can start to fade if you're not careful. John, Greg and Erin provide some help…
Aug. 31, 2021

Marriage is Like Maintaining a Garden

Just like a garden needs water, your marriage needs simple acts of love in order to thrive. John, Erin and Greg explain how they've seen little things help their marriages. They'll also offer some encouragement to couples wh…
Aug. 26, 2021

Stop the Sarcasm!

Telling jokes can be a great way to liven up your marriage. But, a good punch line should never come at your spouse's expense. Greg, Erin and John explain why sarcasm can be toxic for your marriage. Featuring Matt and Lisa J…